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Steve Crabb

Beyond the Surface: Using NLP and Hypnosis for Shadow Integration



As change practitioners, we've all encountered those puzzling moments when our clients hit inexplicable roadblocks. A perfectly constructed intervention stalls. Well-formed goals meet mysterious resistance. Our tried-and-tested techniques work perfectly on paper, yet something deeper seems to hold everything back.


You will have heard us say this many times: “When what you're doing isn't working, do something else.” The questions to ask of yourself are, “Why did it not work?” and “What else will work, and why will that work?” 


When reflecting upon these questions, the techniques work, so if the results weren't as expected, what else is going on?....hmmmm, something to think about!


These moments of feedback ( never failure) aren't just simple resistance patterns or limiting beliefs. Often, they're signposts pointing to shadow material - those aspects of self that Jung identified as crucial to psychological wholeness yet remain rejected or denied in our clients' conscious awareness.


What makes NLP and hypnotherapy uniquely suited for shadow work? We're already working with unconscious patterns and processes. Our tools naturally bridge conscious and unconscious material. The frameworks we use - like ecology checks and parts work - often reveal shadow content without realising it.


As Jung defined it, the Shadow represents those parts of ourselves that we've pushed into unconsciousness because they contradict our chosen identity or values. It's not just our 'negative' traits - it can include positive qualities we've learned to reject, creative energies deemed unsafe, or aspects of ourselves that didn't fit family or cultural expectations. When these shadow aspects remain unintegrated, they often appear as unexplained resistance, relationship patterns, or emotional triggers that block our conscious goals.


I don't aspire to be a good man; I aspire to be a whole man - Carl Jung

Think about it: When a client's ecology check reveals unexpected emotional charge around a seemingly positive change, shadow material often surfaces. When parts work uncovers a protective pattern that seems irrational on the surface, we're usually touching shadow elements. Our hypnotic processes regularly access the deeper material where shadow aspects reside.


In the deeper structure of the unconscious lie the dragons guarding our untapped power, the haunted houses of our rejected selves, and the mazes leading to magical hidden treasures of our authentic nature. These aren't obstacles to be slain or overcome - they're aspects of ourselves asking for understanding and integration. Each resistance, each 'irrational' protection, is a doorway to more profound wisdom waiting to be acknowledged. This is why I'm so passionate about working with the hero's journey aspects of change work - watching clients discover and integrate these seemingly dark or challenging aspects of self into their full potential is truly transformative.



Jungian Shadow Work - a treasure trove of hidden resources.


Therefore, the challenge isn't acquiring new techniques—it's getting better at recognizing these shadow elements when they appear in our existing work and knowing how to work with them effectively. Understanding how shadow material manifests during our standard processes can create more profound, more lasting transformations for our clients.


Let's explore how to use our existing NLP and hypnotherapy tools more effectively for shadow integration...


When discussing shadow integration in our practice, we're looking at how to create space for the whole person to emerge. Think about how our ecology checks often reveal these hidden aspects naturally. Clients might say they want more success, but there's that subtle flinch when we explore how it would affect their relationships. That's not just a limiting belief - it's often a shadow aspect protecting something important.


Our NLP parts work becomes even more powerful when we see it through this lens. Instead of just negotiating between parts, we're creating a dialogue with aspects of self that have been pushed into the shadows. Maybe that "procrastinating part" isn't just being difficult - it might be carrying creative energies that weren't safe to express earlier in life.


Hypnotherapy offers exquisite ways to work with shadow material. The trance state naturally creates a safe container where these rejected aspects can begin to surface. Through regression, we can understand when and why certain qualities were pushed aside. Metaphor work lets clients explore shadow aspects symbolically, making the process less threatening and more integrative.


What's fascinating is how often our clients' timelines reveal shadow patterns. You might notice how someone's relationship challenges keep showing up at particular developmental points or how career successes trigger unexpected emotional responses. These aren't random patterns - they're shadow material asking for attention.


The beauty of our work is that we don't need to change our approach dramatically. Instead, it's about deepening our awareness of what's already emerging in our sessions. We often touch shadow material when we notice a strong emotional charge around seemingly simple changes or when relationship patterns keep blocking progress.


Integration happens naturally when we create the right conditions. Sometimes, it's as simple as acknowledging the protective purpose behind resistant behaviours. Other times, we might need to help clients retrieve split-off qualities through timeline work or parts integration. The key is moving at a pace honoring the desire for change and the wisdom of resistance.


This is where our skills in maintaining rapport and creating safety become crucial. Shadow work requires trust—not just between practitioner and client but also between the client and their own rejected aspects. Our role is to facilitate this deeper relationship with the self, using our tools to create bridges between conscious goals and unconscious wisdom.


Beyond the Surface: A Case Study in Shadow Work

Let me tell you about Sarah (details changed for privacy). She came to me with a straightforward goal: building her hypnotherapy practice. She had excellent training, ( of course) a genuine talent, and a deep desire to help others. Yet, years after qualifying, her practice remained mainly empty. Despite attending multiple courses in social media marketing, she was still holding herself back.


"I know I need to put myself out there," she said during our first session. "I've watched all the marketing videos; I know what I should be doing. I just... don't do it."


On the surface, this looked like classic procrastination or perhaps imposter syndrome. But something deeper emerged as we explored her ecology around building a successful practice. When we investigated her relationship with being visible, interesting patterns surfaced.


Sarah grew up in a family where standing out was dangerous. Her mother, though loving, had frequently cautioned her about "not getting too big for her boots." Any success was met with subtle warnings about pride coming before a fall.


Further exploration revealed something fascinating: Sarah had a deep fear not of failure but of success. She wasn't just avoiding marketing - she was unconsciously protecting herself from visibility. Her shadow carried her power and the family loyalty system that said power was dangerous.


In her words: "It feels like building a successful practice would somehow betray my family. Like I'm saying, I'm better than them. It sounds ridiculous when I say it out loud..."


But it wasn't ridiculous. It was shadow material seeking integration.


We worked with this in several ways. Rather than pushing straight into marketing strategies, which she had been focusing on, we first needed to create space for both aspects: her desire to help others through her practice and her deep loyalty to family patterns.


Using parts work, we discovered that the part avoiding visibility protected something precious - her sense of belonging. Through gentle exploration in a trance, she connected with earlier experiences where dimming her light felt like love.


The breakthrough came when we reframed visibility not as "showing off" but as "being findable" by those who needed help. This wasn't about being better than others - it was about being accessible to those seeking support.


We created a new metaphor: rather than "putting herself out there" (which triggered shadow material around pride), she was "creating bridges" for others to find their way to help. This subtle shift bypassed the shadow's protective patterns while honouring its wisdom about belonging.


The integration work involved helping Sarah recognise that she could be successful and connected to her roots. We worked with timeline patterns to find examples where standing out had created more connection, not less. Her shadow aspects began to show that visibility could serve something more significant than ego.


Gradually, Sarah started taking steps toward visibility. She began with written content - less personally exposing than video. She shared client stories (anonymised) rather than talking about herself. Each step honoured her professional goals and her shadow's need for safety.


A year later, Sarah has a thriving practice. More importantly, she's found a way to be visible that feels authentic and aligned. Her marketing isn't about "showing off"—it's about making meaningful connections. Her shadow aspects aren't fighting her success anymore because she's integrated their wisdom about belonging and authenticity into how she builds her practice.


The key lesson here? 


What looked like marketing resistance was actually an invitation to deeper integration. By working with the shadow material rather than trying to override it, Sarah found a sustainable way to grow her practice while staying true to her values.


This is why I (Steve) love combining NLP, hypnotherapy, and shadow work. We're not just fixing surface behaviours—we're helping people integrate all parts of themselves into their success journey. The very resistance that seems to block progress often carries the seeds of more authentic achievement.


For practitioners working with similar cases, remember to look deeper when clients resist obvious steps toward their stated goals. The shadow often carries wisdom about what must be integrated before external success can feel safe and authentic.


What shadows might be asking for integration in your practice-building journey?


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Are you fascinated by how our latest exploration of Shadow work could enhance your change practice? Perhaps you're curious about integrating these deeper approaches with your existing NLP and hypnosis skills.



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